"Does Sabrina have any brothers or sisters?"I can never say that I have "just one". It doesn't seem right to not mention the twins just because it's complicated and uncomfortable. But it's complicated and uncomfortable.
(awkward pause)
"Well, yes, she has a brother and sister in Heaven. They passed away last winter."
(awkward pause)
(condolences)
(change in topic of conversation)
Friday, February 6, 2009
The Question
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Yeah. I get the same about "how many grandchildren do you have?" When I answer the same way you do, there's that same awkward pause. You want to talk about them, they're a part of our family, even though they are not living with us at the moment. One of these days we will be living with them. It's we who are the visitors here. So how do you go from that awkward pause to where you can comfortably talk about it? Maybe it's because people are generally uncomfortable with the subject of "death" and don't know how to proceed. They want to say something but don't know what to say, therefore the awkwardness. I have found that if I answer in a way that puts people at ease about it, it takes some of the awkwardness away. I love you. Gramma of 3
Why worry how others are feeling. They asked the question and you have given an honest answer. It is your right as a mom to brag about all of your children. People would ask me over and over if I was ever going to give Garrett a sibling. I would tell the story about our lost babies. If they are uncomfortable then they shouldn't have asked! I wear my tatoos of all 4 of my children and love it!! Ask away. xxxooo
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